Elizabeth* is a 40 year old woman who’s struggled with autoimmunity for several years. After a major stress in her life, she reached a breaking point. Her symptoms worsened to the point where she was forced to stop working.
She experienced extreme fatigue and brain fog, nausea, dizziness, pain, anxiety, and so much more. She was diagnosed with not just multiple autoimmune conditions, but had symptoms that aligned with mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS), histamine intolerance, postural orthostatic hypotension (POTs), and dysautonomia.
She had so much she wanted to accomplish in her life, but her body wouldn’t allow for it. She was feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, and hopeless.
She’d seen innumerable medical doctors, tried all the medications she was given. She whittled her diet all the way to ruminant meat-only Carnivore. Saw the therapists and counsellors. Went to naturopathic doctors, and tried everything she could think of.
While all of the above helped somewhat, she felt like she was just hanging on by a thread. And she certainly didn’t feel as functional as she envisioned for herself.
Because of this arduous path, Elizabeth had doubts that she could improve, but she was willing to give my unique and powerful process a try. She was desperate to find change; she just couldn’t live like this any longer.
We started first by teaching the nervous system how to feel safe and calm. This started to improve anxiety and mental clarity. There was still a ways to go, but she was starting to see little bits of improvement.
As I helped her see how the pieces of her life puzzle fit together, she was starting to see things in a different way. Then, we could address what social conditioning from her early years impacted how she sees the world, her beliefs, feelings, and how she shows up in the world with her behaviours and actions.
As she started to see how those outdated beliefs were running the show, she could start working on Unconditioning from them. An important part of releasing what no longer served her was to heal her relationship with herself.
She started by meeting the younger versions of herself—the ones that had the experiences that laid down her social conditioning and belief system. She started to learn what those parts of her were missing and what they needed in order to feel better.
As the pieces of understanding started to come together, she had her “aha” moment of clarity. She finally saw that everything she thought, felt, and believed in her life was her trying to keep herself safe.
We all have an innate need during our developmental years to achieve a feeling of safety and acceptance. If the emotional environment is unsafe, unpredictable, volatile, unsupportive, it will affect what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general. And we will adjust our beliefs, emotions, and behaviours in order to achieve a sense of safety and acceptance. It’s all subconscious, and it’s all based on survival.
Elizabeth finally saw the truth behind it all. And it opened a floodgate of loving compassion for herself like she never experienced.
She could finally see that she was never broken. That underneath it all, she’s a pure, whole, beautiful person, and that never changed. That she had just been blinded to this fact because of the conditioning she experienced—which affected the lens through which she saw herself.
Once she saw these truths, she could see how she was pushing herself to do things in life she didn’t want to do because that’s what she thought society expected of her. She realized she was putting everyone before herself because she didn’t want to rock the boat or have anyone upset.
And she saw how these tendencies were helpful when she was young, but are no longer serving her now.
Elizabeth also realized that her body was trying to give her messages with her physical and emotional symptoms. They were warning signs that something in her life wasn’t aligned. That she wasn’t taking herself into consideration. That she was doing what others wanted, not what she wanted.
She started to understand the language of her body, and recognize signals before they became overwhelming. She could step in and course correct before her body would reach its upper limits.
Elizabeth also became more and more aware of the sensory needs of her nervous system. She resonates with the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and she knows loud sounds and too many people all at once can feel too much. She also easily picks up on other people’s emotions, and can easily take them on as her own. She learned how to prevent herself reaching her threshold, and how to not take on what she didn’t need to from others.
As she went through this process, she started developing deep love and acceptance of herself. Something she never before experienced. She gave herself grace, discovered what she truly wanted in life, and stepped into a completely new reality for herself.
During this process, her energy returned, the brain fog cleared, anxiety calmed down, pain resolved, autoimmune symptoms feel completely under control, food sensitivities improved, histamine issues cleared, and nausea and dizziness only shows up when she pushes herself beyond her limits, which is becoming an event few and far between.
She not just regained a sense of hope for herself, but for the world at large. She started noticing that not only was she improving, but the relationships she had with others around her were improving, as well. Her children were thriving like never before. Her marriage has blossomed even deeper than ever. Her friendships have become rich and fulfilling.
And not only was she able to get back to work, but she found a new and improved position that she feels happy and joyful with (and gets paid more for!). She looks forward to going into work now, and she knows that she’s more aligned with her purpose than ever.
Elizabeth tells me now that she has joy in her heart and a bounce in her step. She feels calm, safe, and aligned, and excited for her present and future that’s unfolding in beautiful ways. She sees that while she’s opened up her life to this magnificent potential, this is just the beginning, and she’s ready for the magic!
She realizes now just how much her relationship with herself and her perceptions based on social conditioning were holding her back from feeling her best. And how the pressure she was putting on herself as a result was keeping her sick, despite the strictest of therapeutic diets, medications, therapies, and treatments.
This powerful process guided her back to the truth of who she really is, and reminded her that she has all the power within her. When she healed from the inside, everything finally fell into place. This is the power of finding your Remedy Within.
*Name and personal identifying details have been changed for privacy reasons